Courtesy Zoe FitzGerald Carter of the author's mother, Mary FitzGerald Carter, Vermont in 1985.I think between my mother announcement wanted that you "things to stop" and the night that you to shortages of food and water with an intentional overdose morphine succumbed lapses back often on the turbulent year.
What, me I could question, my sisters and I have different?Should we tried harder to speak out? stock to talk to a psychiatrist? Had you ensured do not have access to deadly drugs or medicines?
These are the types of difficult questions that friends and family of ill and elderly people, a desire, your life to stop.As my sisters and I can attest the emotions churned out intense and overwhelming his can. in our case you ranged from sadness, by applying our mother their unbearable situation found (was at the advanced Parkinson's disease suffer), disappointment, you "above, to anxiety over the prospect of there being when type was" you did it.
Not surprisingly, was our first response trying to dissuade you.Later I learned that during this reaction is normal, experts say it is not the most constructive.
"People say ' Oh Mama like the talk not."You'll be fine ' instead of pull your Chair up to the bed and say: "I'm here for Sie.Ich you will leave." Together we can through this work,"said Barbara Coombs Lee, President of compassion and selection, a national coma patient organization.
So what we should do when a beloved first expresses the wish to die? listen carefully, experts say. Quiet to respond and make sure your favorite conversational take the lead to.
"" The first thing is be curious,"said Dr. Susan block, head of psychosocial oncology and palliative care at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute in Boston." Many patients with serious diseases have fleeting thoughts about your life. "I think what you often say is that it something caused you a lot of suffering or concerned about which suffer ahead of us."
"Ninety five percent of the time brings a patient it up, the requirement to have help die fade away if you engage in this listener process", she added.
What are you to hear?Dr. block suggests that families by working issues, starting with the physischen.Ist the family member uncomfortable or pain? If this is the most serious problem confronting it, there is nothing more can be done about it?
"Pain can be the easiest thing to address", said Ms. Lee."Even if the person is not to die, you can have a burden of disease that really affects the quality of your life such as rheumatoid arthritis." "We want to find out what we can do to make you more comfortable."
If the primary issue is physical complaints, it is also important to find out, what is emotionally.Is your favorite, anxious or depressed?Drives hopelessness request to end life?If Yes, then the patient able to make clear a judgment on this decision may not.
"Each patient a premature death in a sustainable way request must see a mental health clinicians", said Dr. block."It would be tragic if someone under the influence of depression things was as dark and futile to see their lives to an end."
"The challenge is to distinguish between treatable depression and the predictable effect of a serious or debilitating disease living.""" Many of the symptoms of depression are the same symptoms, people with a terminal disease, have,"said Ms. Lee."It is a loss of appetite, weight loss, insomnia.And then there appropriate situational depression."You should be allowed, mourn your own impending death."
Some emotional burdens may not clinical strict Sinn.vielleicht the family is who would like to link die fear, because you someone die in a particularly painful way hat.vielleicht experienced concerns makes around is a burden for your Familie.vielleicht is experienced a kind of spiritual crisis, a sense of futility, or trouble with God.
"Just to talk and burden-sharing can be really helpful" for these patients, said Dr. block.
Even after you make has become that die desire seems well considered conversation probably just begonnen.Bei of my mother languages we for over a year about why to take your own life was wollte.Sie articulate, compelling and steadfast in the gesamten.Obwohl about their physical condition unhappy was - it was then limited to on your bed - apparently despondent or clinically depressed.
As repeatedly to us said was you instead decide to end your life because you found your physical limitations unacceptable and foresaw only more humiliation and suffering.
Although I was very sad, ultimately I assumed that they eat the right to make this choice hatte.Zwei weeks after I, was called to tell her that I supported your plans and trinken.Meine sister and I were in your bed to the end.
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